I recently took a vacation with my husband, and as we strolled down the river walk one peaceful evening, we starting talking – as we often do – about our future. Where are we headed, big picture? We talked about the feeling of stagnation. Neither of us likes to feel so settled in that we don’t welcome change. So, then it quickly turned to counting how many new things we have started, but not finished. I praised him for being so willing to start new things and sarcastically asked, “How many new things have I started recently?” Boy, was I surprised when he rattled off five things I have successfully begun and stuck to in the last year!
My husband has taught me one of the most valuable lessons I could learn: you never know what people are saying about you when you’re not around. Specifically, you don’t know how they praise you. This has encouraged me to praise myself when no one else is around. I have begun new endeavors. And I have been successful.
As you examine your life — past, present, and future — don’t forget to pat yourself on the back. Make an effort not to see your new challenges as daily struggles, but to really track your progress and celebrate every step along the way! If you don’t, you will face my biggest fear: reaching the end of your life, only to realize it was a series of stresses and struggles. I spend far too much time looking at a calendar to plan lofty goals. Enjoy today and do something just for you!
Morgan Davis is the library’s Community Learning Coordinator.