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By Lori Berezovsky | Dec. 3, 2018

November is my birthday month, and this year it was a big one. Based on my gene pool, it’s an age I always assumed I’d see but never dwelt upon, looking instead to the far future of what life in my 90s would be like. I’ve never feared aging, but this one made me pause. As the old adage goes, old age isn’t for the faint of heart. As my 93-year-old mom puts it, “Getting old is hell.”  However, gray hair and age spots are accompanied by wisdom. Decades of navigating through the world really does produce benefits! I know myself and how I operate now; at least I’m tired of pretending to be someone I’m not. I acknowledge the good and the bad, the failures and successes. Memories of my youthful shenanigans serve as a cautionary tale about what not to do. My younger self exhausts me.

Perhaps the best thing about turning 60 is that I’m not dead. Seriously. There are achy-joint-days when this rings particularly true. Still, I wake up each day and wonder what I’ll learn or do or see. There is so much more to accomplish!

Sixty seems to be the age of reckoning for women. Many friends have announced, on the eve of their 60th birthday, that they will no longer keep their peace. They will speak up and out and tell it like it is. Sisters, I now join your ranks as one who will no longer go along quietly. I am going to focus on my dreams and let my fears go; this is especially important when you’ve been raised to fear everything, as so many girls of my generation were. This quote by Paul S. Boynton sums it up nicely, “Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do your fears.” So, as I lean into my 60th year, I remind myself to embrace what could be and quiet the voice in my head telling me I can’t, shouldn’t, won’t.

Book titles that express how I feel about turning 60, in no particular order:

“Braving the Wilderness” by Brené BrownBraving the Wilderness book cover

“You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living” by Jen Sincero

“Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas” by Hunter S. Thompson

“Tired of Being Tired: Rescue, Repair, Rejuvenate” by Tired of Being Tired book coverJesse Hanley and Nancy Deville

“Wonder” by R. J. Palacio

“Old Age: A Beginner’s Guide” by Michael E. Kinsley